I proposed a panel for Nom Con this year, “Gender and Diversity in Geek Culture”. It seemed like a fairly sound bet, Nom hasn’t always been the nicesest to me so it would have made up for that pretty well and I had a reasonable amount of clout with it given I do have some fairly impressive essays on this tumblr and some cool people potentially doing it with me.
But nope, I heard I was turned down a little over two weeks before the convention. It had been so long since I’d heard back from them that I didn’t have time to prepare the panel anyway. They told me it was because they just had so many panel submissions. When they finally released the timetable - there was not a single inclusive/queer/feminist/whatever event , and they had a ton of panels. They had a Panty & Stocking panel - a panel for a fucking 3 1/2 year old single cour anime over a single “hey let’s look at these chinese cartoons in a critical light” type event.
I registered my complaint on the forums - of course the thread got locked so I raised it again in a slightly different fashion in the events thread. I’m really really tired of feeling alien and excluded at these things. I’ve come along way from when I was a mess of panic attacks and random arguments and I deserve better treatment than this, as does everyone.
Anonymous Towards the whole "pronouns hurt people's feelings" topic. Am I REALLY the only person on the planet that thinks people are becoming far to sensative? Nearly to the point that they shouldn't leave their little home bubbles in the case that a bird chirps next to them in a way that sounds like a mean word. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, we're becoming a little TOO coddling and people need to learn to deal with simplistic shit like words. And yes, I've been insulted and made fun of. I got over it. So can you.
Supposedly invented by the Chinese, there is an ancient form of torture that is nothing more than cold, tiny drops falling upon a person’s forehead.
On its own, a single drop is nothing. It falls upon the brow making a tiny splash. It doesn’t hurt. No real harm comes from it.
In multitudes, the drops are still fairly harmless. Other than a damp forehead, there really is no cause for concern.
The key to the torture is being restrained. You cannot move. You must feel each drop. You have lost all control over stopping these drops of water from splashing on your forehead.
It still doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. But person after person, time and time again—would completely unravel psychologically. They all had a breaking point where each drop turned into a horror. Building and building until all sense of sanity was completely lost.
"It was just a joke, quit being so sensitive."
"They used the wrong pronoun, big deal."
"So your parents don’t understand, it could be worse."
Day after day. Drop after drop. It builds up. A single instance on its own is no big deal. A few drops, not a problem. But when you are restrained, when you cannot escape the drops, when it is unending—these drops can be agony.
People aren’t sensitive because they can’t take a joke. Because they can’t take being misgendered one time. Because they lack a thick skin.
People are sensitive because the drops are unending and they have no escape from them.
You are only seeing the tiny, harmless, single drop hitting these so-called “sensitive” people. You are failing to see the thousands of drops endured before that. You are failing to see the restraints that make them inescapable.
DC: Wonder Woman is too difficult to find a movie audience for- Marvel: YO YOU LIKE BLACK WIDOW? HERE SHE IS IN THE NEXT CAPTAIN AMERICA MOVIE WITH A TON OF SCREENTIME AND MAJOR ASSKICKING SKILLS DC: We can’t allow the lesbians in Batwoman to get married in the comic, sorry. Marvel: HEY GUESS WHAT WE’RE GONNA FEATURE A GAY WEDDING ON THE COVER OF AN X-MEN ISSUE DC: The new direction for storytelling needs to be dark, gritty, mature and cynical. Marvel: DUDE CHECK IT OUT LOKI GOES SPEED DATING IS THAT NOT THE BEST SHIT EVER DC: After years of rumors, the Superman/Batman movie is finally coming, but with a new actor and suit for Batman and MAYBE a cameo from Wonder Woman. Marvel: PHASE 2 MOTHERFUCKERS EVERYONE IS IN EVERYONE’S MOVIE AND THERE AIN’T NO STOPPIN US NOW DC: We can try to add maybe one or two ‘people of color’ to our lineup…maybe… Marvel: NEW MS MARVEL THAT’S MUSLIM AMERICAN, BITCHES. DC: We feel no problem with Batman’s vengeful personality being like wet cardboard. Marvel: NEW LATINA GHOST RIDER WHO SEEKS VENGEANCE WHILE TAKING HIS AWEET LIL BRO FOR ICE CREAM DC: We can’t mention any superhero titles in our movies, that’s ridiculous. Marvel: FUCK YEAH YOU WANT A RACOON VOICED BY BRADLEY COOPER WITH A GIANT GUN? YOU WANT VIN DIESEL PLAYING A TREE? AMY FUCKING POND PLAYING A SEXY BALD SPACE PIRATE? HERE YOU FUCKERS GO DC: Our fanbase is mostly white males, I’m sure our focus is- Marvel: NEW SHE HULK LINE WHERE SHE GOES TO COURT THEN SAVES NEW YORK DC: Wait- Marvel: NEW FEMALE THOR DC: I didn’t- Marvel: NEW BLACK CAPTAIN AMERICA Marvel: TAKE ALL THIS COOL SHIT MARVEL BE OUTIE Marvel: PEACE
Maybe over-rating Marvel’s efforts a bit though - they still have no female led super hero movies, the Avengers is still fairly overwhelmingly male, they’re kinda whitewashing the Romani twins in Age of Ultron and I can’t think of any remotely major lesbian characters in Marvel. The only couple that comes to mind is Mystique and Irene Adler, two villains who are presumably not together seeing as how Destiny is currently(I could be wrong) dead and Karolina from runaways, which hasn’t been a thing for a while now.
"At the Parade on Sunday, around 11:25am, a man "with a beer belly and a black vest" took a swipe at a trans* self-proclaimed fairy godmother’s wings and broke them, telling her to go away, that this was a day for "his" people. We at Seattl…e PrideFest for one won’t claim him as our own. We are one community and if you believe that there shouldn’t be a T in LGBT, then your presence at Pride negates the whole purpose of Pride. It’d be better for you to just stay home. Let’s leave the bigotry, homophobia, and transphobia to Westboro and their hateful cohorts. We are stronger together than we are apart, and our trans* family faces enough bigotry from the outside world—they shouldn’t have to get it from our own community. If you have more information or photos from this incident, please send to email@example.com. #unitedwepride”
So the asshole who did this claimed it was a day for ‘his people’?
What this idiot does not seem to grasp is that the person he attacked and victimized, Lonness Valenna, IS his people! It is not just about Lesbian and Gay People, not just the L and the G whilst heaping scorn upon Trans people and Bisexual people.
How can some proclaim Pride whilst shaming others, thus trying to take their Pride from them? How can some who have felt the boot of oppression upon their necks turn around and do the same to others?
It is Hypocrisy, and it is Wrong.
Those who think that it is okay to scorn and shame Trans and Bisexual people, those who engage in this hate ful behaviour, those who supposedly fight for rights, while engaging in the oppression to diminish, marginalize, or exclude the same rights of others…do not deserve their rights at all.
Everyone should completely support this. As a trans fairy god mother type myself, I can say it is really important to enable those who wish to put themselves out there and use their stories and experiences to help others. Lonness does a lot of work with various trans/queer organisations and totally deserves some of your money.
Can we raise money to buy her some new wings? Because those wings are HELLA expensive.
Her bank account wasn’t working, but she seems to have fixed it now so can now accept donations.